Gaslighting – Time to Light Out!

What’s the origin of the term “Gaslighting?

In British author Patrick Hamilton’s

1938 play Gas Light,

a wicked, manipulative husband gets his wife to doubt her memory and her sanity
The play (and its film adaptations) gave rise to the term gaslighting with the meaning “a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim with the intent of making them doubt their own memory and perception”.

Where does Gaslighting occur?
Personal relationships, at the workplace, or over an entire society.

What does it do? 
It creates a subtle, but inequitable, power dynamic in a relationship.

What does the gaslighter want?
His/Her ultimate objective  is to control, dominate, and take advantage of another individual, or a group, or even an entire society.

Yes, ruling by fooling, is a great British art with great Irish fools to practice on. - James Connolly

 

How does the gaslighter manage that?
By subjecting the victim to unreasonable, scrutiny, judgement, or micro-aggression.

Remember: gaslighting is never fact-based.

What are the gaslighter’s tactics?
1) assertion.

S/He/the Government/The press make a short statement, preferably in catchy language. This gives the victim a problem, how to challenge it. Inevitably that means making a case, presenting facts and data. Unfortunately the public can get turned off by a lengthy response.

2) Repetition.

Say it often enough and it becomes fact, whether or not there is basis.

3) Lies and Exaggeration.

The gaslighter creates a negative narrative about the victim (“There’s something wrong and inadequate about you”), based on generalized false presumptions and accusations, rather than objective, independently verifiable facts, thereby putting the victim on the defensive

4) Restructuring  reality and history, subtly coaching relatives and friends to remember things as happening the way they want them to be remembered.

Remember: Historical revisionism in the Republic of Ireland and Northern Ireland has been “flavour of the month” for the past few years and shows no signs of abating in an attempt to whitewash the UK’s actions in NI.

Historical revisionism has been non-stop in Scotland since the Act of Union.

Goodies become baddies, motivations are questioned, governments become benign and activists and national heroes are dashed from their pedestals, with their ideals trashed

Result: the populations of Scotland and NI are totally confused as to where the truth lies. Individuals question their own judgements.  The gap between what they instinctively know is true and what they are told non-stop in the press and on TV creates a psychological tension which may manifest in depression, withdrawal and resignation.

Risultati immagini per nothing I can do

5) Gaslighters curry favor and form alliances

 

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See  the DUP arrangement with PM May’s Conservative Party

6) Gaslighters will occasionally treat the victim with mildness, moderation, and even superficial kindness or remorse, to give the victim false hope.

In these circumstances, the victim might think:

Maybe he’s really not THAT bad,”

“Maybe things are going to get better,” or

“Let’s give it a chance.”

Remember the Vow?

Gaslighters then deny things like promises were made to the victim

Remember the Smith Commission?

How does the victim feel?
Isolated
In a constant state of insecurity, doubt, and fear

At its worst, pathological gaslighting constitutes a severe form of mind-control and psychological abuse.

All over the UK Tory gaslighting of the poor, disabled and working stiffs led to cuts to public spending, austerity (Bedroom tax, Universal credits and Food banks together with increased rates of suicide and mental health problems

In Scotland, Westminister gaslighting
(too poor, too weak, too stupid)

led to the Scottish cringe, poor mental health and  passive-aggressive grumbling

In Northern Ireland, the Unionist gaslighting cries of “Disloyal” “Fenian bastard”and “The Other Sort” labelled Catholics/Republicans/Socialists/Irish nationalists as subversives for 100 years.

Even if they (then about 35% of the NI population, now almost 50%) tried to fade into the background by adopting the Unionist/British mindset, they were never fully trusted.
They couldn’t win either way.

Which is an important point.

As an individual or a nation, you can’t win with gaslighters on their terrain

2) Scotland was shafted with The Vow, the Smith commission and English Votes for English Laws

Risultati immagini per english votes for english laws

Remember: You can’t win with gaslighters on their terrain.

You can only walk away.

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To avoid being gaslighted – trust your own judgment and your own common sense.

To recover from gaslighting: Non – engagement is the most successful way

NO CONTACT with your abuser.

This strategy will give you the time and space to heal and realize that your reality is not up for debate.

You can regain your sense of self and develop renewed confidence in your own judgements and decisions.

To counteract gaslighting on the national level.
Consider our own ‘public information’ releases.

Some short sharp truths about the Union and the state of it, need to be pushed hard and often. Retaliation in first!

Final Comment: So many Scots, Welsh and NI Unionists/Loyalists are not aware of how we have been (are) treated by Westminster and the UK Establishment.

Refs and Pics
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201704/7-stages-gaslighting-in-relationship
https://www.restoredrelationships.org/news/2016/08/30/gaslighting/

https://breisebreiseleighgoleire1969.wordpress.com/tag/propaganda-in-cartoons/

https://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2011/01/28/irish-apes-tactics-of-de-humanization/

http://www.jermar.com/helpful-hints-windows-10/

https://genius.com/All-that-remains-nothing-i-can-do-lyrics

Gaslighting / Crazymaking

10 thoughts on “Gaslighting – Time to Light Out!

  1. Oh, so true. But if you reject the MSM and rely on “independent” media for your information, the gaslighters will claim that you are living in a bubble, consuming “fake news”. I’d rather live in a bubble than be subjected to the misinformation, lies and manipulation of the BBC et al. Most importantly, they lie by omission, so we just don’t have a clue what’s happening, or what they’re really getting up to.
    ” Wings Over Scotland” has done a lovely retrospective about “gasllighting” (https://wingsoverscotland.com/helping-out-murdo/) during the Independence Referendum over the discoveries of oil to the west of Shetland, which were known about from the 1970’s but were only just beginning to be developed at that time.
    The MSM and the NO campaign dealt with this potentially crushing blow to their economic case against Independence by denying that it was happening, calling the development “secret oil” and claiming that it did not exist. That it was all Yes propaganda. They were very successful in this as proved by the fact that opinion polls showed that approximately 50% of the population believed them, yet the oil industry publications of the time were full of it. That’s how I knew it to be true. Absolutely shameless.
    Well, now we know for certain that it did exist, as its producing oil, and that it is one of the biggest single reservoirs of oil ever found, stretching from Shetland right down the west coast to the Clyde.
    But never mind, it’s still “British”, so that’s OK.

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